““What is mine, is mine.
And what is yours, is yours.”
WEEK Five: SAFE V DANGEROUS MEN
INTENTION
Upon study of “The Queen’s Code” it becomes evident that this lens is for applying to “safe” men. This gives us an opening to explore our discernment and begin to create new awareness about “dangerous” men and our boundaries with them. We will focus on the aspect of ‘respect’ with regard to coming into deeper love and partnership with men and the masculine. The intention this week is to feel into our ability to discern, to trust our instincts ,and to trust our intution.
daily practice for this week:
Cord Cutting - Think of cord cutting as ‘energetic hygiene.’ Imagine our auras and our energy fields extend beyond our physical bodies; so we are essentially ‘mixing’ energy with each other all day long. (It’s also important to know that energy travels through time and space: it’s multi-dimensional.) It is important to be mindful of how open you are: enter discernment, instinct, intuition, etc. The practice of Cord Cutting helps us to keep our energy fields ‘clean’ so that we don’t get bogged down with unwanted energy. AND, this practice is incredibly helpful if you feel an energetic tie to someone whom you may have exchanged energy with and you no longer wish to be “tied” to them. The simplest practice is to imagine them and to simply say: “What’s mine, is mine. And, what is yours is yours. I call back my energy, and send back yours. We are no longer connected by any cords, ties, contracts, energy. And so it is.”
BONUS: There are many ceremonies and rituals that can be performed for cord cutting if you have a desire for this. Find your own way or ask me for help musing. If you feel a strong cord tie that you have a desire to cut you can take two candles in separate holders and loosely tie them together so that they are standing side-by-side; and then light both candles (one representing you and one one representing the other person). Be sure to light them in a safe place with a fire proof dish or surface under them, the string/twine/rope will burn too which symbolizes the end of the shared connection.
where will you place your devotion this week?
“There is no journey of the Feminine without devotion.” Each week I will be asking you to share where you will be placing your devotion for the week. You have three choices: Your Higher Self, on God/The Divine (as you call it), or on The Masculine.
felt sense for the week:
Each week we will focus our attention on the practice of allowing ourselves to be felt. For many of us this practice includes learning to articulate how we feel in any given moment, and learning to trust our bodies to tell us how we feel, and having the courage to take action (mas)/or move (fem) from here. The very first step to this forever practice is allowing ourselves to FEEL, so that we can feel it and trust it for ourselves. Be prepared to enter our circle this week by sharing how you are arriving, in a felt sense.
This week I invite you to FEEL: Discernment, Clarity, Boundaries, Truth, Instinct, Intuition + Love, Peace, Letting go
altar + tools:
Each week I will be inviting you to consider the ways you incorporate the Feminine element of “the sacred” into your life; this is completely, uniquely YOUR way. I will be sharing things each week to inspire you, please find your own ways to deepen in here and I hope that you will share these during our journey so that we may be inspired by you and your practices.
This week I invite you to BE CURIOUS ABOUT:
Your idea of “an altar” and if you feel inspired, please create an altar that will represent this full journey. If you already have an altar, please consider placing something on it that represents your focus for this week.
Consider the “tools” you have to practice and/or to add “the sacred” into your life: candles, rituals, ceremonies, oils, prayers, affirmations, tinctures, cards, crystals… (If this is something you need guidance with please let me know and we can muse together on our Friday call.)
questions for contemplation + discussion
What is the difference between “instinct” and “intuition?” How do you personally utilized these skills/tools?
Do you trust your instincts? Do you trust your intuition? Is there a difference for you in the trusting aspect/inner trust for these?
What is a “dangerous man” for YOU? Take inventory of the “dangerous men” in your life; journal + meditate here.
(Is there any devotional or heart-based practice that needs to take place? For yourself and/or for them?)
Create a plan for dealing with future “dangerous men.”
Describe a “safe man” for YOU.
Find ways to be in devotion to the “safe men” in your life; how does this look for you?
Deepen into the aspect of respect with regard to your ability to be in devotion (or feminine mastery) with a man/the masculine. Can you be in devotion to our feminine mastery with a man that you do not respect? How does this look for you (if so, and if not)?